10 small acts to spice up your sex life

Okay beauties, let’s get real for a minute, even the most passionate relationships can experience a dry spell now and then. We get busy, routines take over, and suddenly the fiery spark that once lit up our bedrooms feels more like a fading candle. But, here is the great news! You don’t have to be a femme fatale or adult star to spice things up. These 10, everyday tips can get that bedroom beautifully spicy in no time! Tried and tested, thank us later!

1.    Send a Sexy Text

 Anticipation is a powerful addition to your bedroom! A quick text on your lunch break can bring an afternoon of sexy thoughts and an intense desire to get your hands on your partner! It goes a long way, and it helps them to feel desired and to know you are thinking of them throughout the day.

 It could be as simple as:

“Can’t stop thinking about you. You are in for a surprise when you get home.”

or

“I may not have worn undies today. Guess you will have to find out tonight.”

 Thinking about a message like this all day, will build that excitement and when they get your hands on you, it will make it even more incredible.

2.    Compliment Their Body

When was the last time you told your partner how hot they are? Compliments, from your partner can be very reassuring and reminding them that you still find them sexy? Isn’t that a great feeling?

 A casual “I can’t stop staring at your legs in those jeans” or “You have the sexiest smile” can remind them they’re still the object of your desire.

3.    Surprise Them With Physical Touch

We get it, not every hug or kiss is an invitation for sex! Often non-sexual touch can strengthen your bond and your relationship, plus it just feels really nice. Try giving your partner a long, unexpected hug, a hand on the knee while they are driving or a quick shoulder squeeze.

Even running your fingers along their back while cooking can create connections. These small acts of touch and affection create a feeling of bonding and can lead to sexual touch.

4.    Leave a Naughty Note

Remember finding a note in your lunchbox from your mum? Now imagine that feeling of being love but add in a sweet or spicy sentiment from your partner! That would be pretty great right? Pop it in their bag before work, on the bathroom mirror or on top of their keys before they leave for the day.

It could be a sweet message “Can’t wait to kiss every inch of you tonight,” or something more playful: “I dare you to think about me naked during your next meeting.”

The element of surprise and the personal touch make it extra special.

5.    Turn Up the Flirting

My favourite part of dating is… the flirting! But don’t let being together for a while stop the flirt. Let’s make our everyday interactions a bit fun and flirty.

A wink across the room, whispering something suggestive on the way to challenging them to a cheeky bet are all great ways to keep the flirting up, to keep the spice up.

6.    Share a Fantasy Over Dinner

Im not saying you should share every fantasy you may have or explain it in detail, just try mentioning a new position or toy you might like to try. Another fun idea is to remind your partner about a particularly spicy memory you share.

 Being open and including this in everyday conversation can help keep the spice alive and keeps the door open for new ideas.

7.    Steal a Quickie When You Can

 “I need you, NOW” – I know I’d be ready and my pants down! I love taking the time to enjoy and savour the moment but sometimes a quickie is exactly what you need. I love the feeling that your partner is lusting after you so strongly that they can’t wait.

Let’s all embrace the moment and remember that sex doesn’t have to take hours or being planned.

8.    Shower Together

Making use of the time your partner is in the shower and hop in too! Is there any better feeling than the water running over your body and being held?

I’m not saying it has toto lead to anything more (though it might!). It’s great to spend some time giving your partner your undivided attention.

9.    Wear Something They Love

Is there a dress or pair of pants you know your partner thinks you look incredible in? Has it been sitting at the back of your wardrobe?

Making the choice to wear something they love seeing you in, sends a very clear message: I want you to notice me.

10.                  Make Eye Contact—Real Eye Contact

 We get busy, we follow the steps and run through the motions without really noticing each other. Next time you talk, pause and look them in the eyes and remind them how much you care about them.

Hold their gaze during a kiss, smile at them across the table, or lock eyes during a quiet moment on the couch. It’s a small act, but it can create a deep sense of connection and intimacy. 

Wrapping It Up

Bringing back the spark in your relationship doesn’t have to include expensive gifts or a 26 point plan, you are reminding your partner that you think about them, desire them and prioritise your relationship.

The best part? You can do most of these now, with no preparation. They take a minute and the spark will thank you. So beauties, go ahead—send that flirty text, caress their shoulder and enjoy the moments you spend together.

I’d love to know what tip you will try first!